We all love the rush of excitement and walking on air feeling in the early stages of a fulfilling relationship; however, that new love high invariably gives way to the pressures and reality of daily life. This evolution is natural and necessary, but it may leave us looking at our spouse or partner wondering, “What happened to the person I fell in love with?” Just because the honeymoon phase is over, doesn’t mean the relationship is doomed. On the contrary, these changes can lead to a deeper commitment and understanding of the mate we have chosen. That doesn’t mean, however, that this natural growth is always easy or smooth.
Similarly, some relationships stretch and grow in healthy ways for decades, but then encounter stressors or obstacles that leave both parties feeling confused and frustrated. Strategies and coping methods used in the past suddenly don’t work and we are left feeling powerless or angry. While it seems logical that a couple that has been together for a long time would be able to work out any problems they face, it’s not always the case. In fact, longstanding patterns of coping can leave us blind to other options which might be more helpful.
Regardless of the age of a relationship, conflict is inevitable. How we deal with it means the difference between loving resolution of the problem or growing farther apart. Building solid, respectful and healthy communication patterns is key to all successful work with couples. Whether the main issue is trust, betrayal, sexual problems or just feeling a loss of connection, the ability to communicate your needs and wants to each other is vital. From this foundation, we work together to repair and strengthen the strained connections that have been strained, re-connect with the joy and emotion that brought you together initially, and give you the tools to deal with obstacles not yet encountered.
If you’ve taken the time to read this far, odds are there are issues in your relationship with which you are unsatisfied. You may feel there is little hope for improvement.
It’s my task to help you hold that hope and understand what is needed to rebuild the relationship. Couples therapy in San Diego is an effective, high-impact investment in your future.
Make that investment!